Overcoming Jealousy as a Blogger

Come to think of it? Are you jealous as a blogger or jealous in general? Kabenlah is at it again and with kabenlah.com, we look at the world through the eyes of others and today is of no exception. We are going to look at the world through Steve Pavlina but you know this post wouldn’t be complete without telling you what Little Johnny who is a jealous husband found out about his wife.

LITTLE JOHNNY: My wife where are you?
WIFE: At home love.
LITTLE JOHNNY: Are you sure?
WIFE: Yes.
LITTLE JOHNNY: Turn on the blender.
WIFE: (turns blender on) reeereeeereeee
LITTLE JOHNNY: Ok my love, goodbye.

Another day

LITTLE JOHNNY:My wife where are you?
WIFE: At home love
LITTLE JOHNNY: Are you sure?
WIFE: Yes
LITTLE JOHNNY: Turn on the blender
WIFE: (turns blender on) reeereeeereeee
LITTLE JOHNNY:: Ok my love goodbye

The next day, Little Johnny decides to come home without notice, and finds his son alone and he asked him son where is your mother?

SON: I don’t know, she went out with the blender.

Hahaha! Let move back to business as usual and I guess Little Johnny’s wife will have to come back and answer where she is coming back from with the blender.

Overcoming jealousy has been one of my most requested topics for new articles, but in the past I’ve always declined such requests because I don’t have much personal experience in this area.  I’m not prone to jealousy, so I can’t explain from personal experience how to overcome it.  Nevertheless, due to the demand for such an article, I’ll risk sharing my thoughts on it anyway.

In my opinion jealousy is a side-effect of a mindset that’s rooted in scarcity.  Jealousy is the emotion resulting from the notion that another person’s success or happiness somehow diminishes your own.  If you look at the world from the lens of abundance instead of scarcity, it’s very difficult to become jealous.

Why then worry about the successes if other bloggers when your blog has the right to succeed as well when the right mindsets are applied to it?

From my standpoint another person’s success and happiness is a very good thing.  You could even say that’s my purpose in running this site.  When the people around me are happy and fulfilled, they’ll naturally spread those feelings to others.  This is a situation to be desired, not avoided.

If you want one of the world’s jealous people in the world, you’re likely to come across a blogger. Hahaha! You have bloggers comparing Alexa ranks, pageranks, traffic and other stuffs and the next thing you see is them comparing with fellow bloggers and that is when jealousy set in.

They totally ignore how long the individual they are comparing themselves to have being online. But yet still you envy his success! That is  madness and will certainly not get you far.

How to Overcome Jealousy as a Blogger?

Just be yourself and stop comparing yourself with others as a blogger. That is the number one way to go. Going about and seeing the downfall of fellow blogs wouldn’t do you any good.

The downfall of Blogger Z doesn’t in anyway guarantee your blog’s success. Please keep that in mind!

Your Turn

What you make of this post matters a lot. Your thought by way of comment is very well welcomed.

27 thoughts on “Overcoming Jealousy as a Blogger

    1. Emmanuel Kabenlah Cudjoe Post author

      Hello Madam Leena,

      Thanks as well for your comment.

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  1. Harleena Singh

    Hi Emmanuel,

    That’s true….jealousy is present all around us, among people, whether it’s at the personal or professional level. I wish it wasn’t, but it is and that’s the sad part of it all.

    I agree, we do have jealous bloggers around too who perhaps will keep tag of your rank or traffic and because they can’t reach there, jealousy sets in. They don’t realize that it takes hard work and effort to do what you do – nothing comes easy in life. So, instead, they need to feel good if their friends are doing well, be with them in their success and genuinely feel happy for them.

    We need to remember that we are unique, and each one of us is different and has immense talent, waiting to be tapped. So, instead of feeding on jealousy or wasting time seeing what others are doing, or feeling bad if others progress – go out and conquer the world – who stops you?

    Thanks for sharing. Have a nice weekend :)
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    1. Emmanuel Kabenlah Cudjoe Post author

      Hello Madam Harleena,

      We are of course unique in our own right and that is exactly the message I wanted to carry across and it is a great thing adding your voice to it as well.

      All that we obviously need to do is to simply- go out there and conquer the world and no one obviously stops us.

      Thanks for your comment Madam Harleena and do have a great weekend as well.

      Reply
    1. Emmanuel Kabenlah Cudjoe Post author

      Hello Madam Shiwangi,

      Thanks as well for your comment. Jealousy is indeed a dream killer.

      Reply
  2. Minakshi Srivastava

    Hello Emmanuel,

    I love this article!

    Jealousy is natural and and we all handle it differently. It’s so true that we always want we don’t have.

    I think every blogger feels jealousy to some degree.

    One thing we should keep in mind that big bloggers didn’t get popular on just luck.They are successful in their blogging career because they do not care about others, they are being themselves, that’s all.

    I put my mind in a positive state when I get jealous. I try my best to find my passion, work hard on that and be satisfied with what I can achieve :)

    Thanks for such an inspiring post
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    1. Emmanuel Kabenlah Cudjoe Post author

      Hello Madam Minakhsi,

      There is of course no doubt that we all do feel jealous in someway or the other but as you rightly stated, putting your mind in a positive state is what matters he most.

      Thanks as well for your comment and do have a great week ahead.

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    1. Emmanuel Kabenlah Cudjoe Post author

      Hello Shiv,

      Thanks as well for your comment and I obviously do hope to see you around more often with your comment.

      Do have a great week ahead!

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    1. Emmanuel Kabenlah Cudjoe Post author

      Little jealous of course doesn’t have help anyone.
      Thanks for your comment.

      Reply
  3. metz

    “If you look at the world from the lens of abundance instead of scarcity, it’s very difficult to become jealous.” is the best takeaways I found here Emmanuel.

    I can personally say I am a jealous type of a persona and reading this made me think and dig deep. I love the takeaways since I found a lesson there where I can use in life, not just in blogging but in general.

    I found this post shared on Kingged.com, the Internet marketing social site, and I “kingged” it and left this comment.
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  4. Andrew

    First off, your little Johnny skits are funnier and funnier every time.

    In terms of jealousy, I’ll admit at times I some jealousy creeps into my mind when I see numbers like Pat Flynn’s or someone else, but then I say to myself that I need to work on me and my brand in order to get to their level … they already have their brand.

    Jealously is a thing that shouldn’t even be a topic honestly because each blogger should just do what works for them and employ their own strategies to get where they want to be … just my opinion.

    If you’re constantly jealous over every other bloggers success, you’re going to be spending most of your time stewing over what they’re doing instead of what you could do to get to their level.

    Great post.

    – Andrew
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  5. Ankur Agrawal

    Yeaahh!!! we all become jealous. Sometimes in our blogging journey, sometimes in our daily life. I think small amount of jealously is good because it forces us to work hard and get to the level where other people are. But in general we should avoid jealously and work for our own betterment. Thank you for the great article…:)

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  6. Areesha Noor
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    Hi Emmanuel,
    Nice post as usual,

    This is truth, every where there are jealous found.
    Every time, You add great jokes in post to entertain you reader. so that they can read every post care fully. This is really great tricks to attract the visitor and attention of your visitor.

    Thanks for sharing,

    Areesha Noor!
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  7. Dennis Seymour

    You made me laugh with your brief dialogue. Truly, a story of a jealous husband and a wise wife. :-)… Well, it’s nice you pen what you have noticed. There will always be jealous people around the world, around the web, that keep on trying to ruin other’s blog. I just can’t understand why they need to exert effort, spend time and money just to send other people’s blog down. Why not make use of those resources to hone their own craft rather than doing something that can hurt others. Well, just saying. Anyway, your post is an eye opener for everyone. Thanks for sharing.

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